There is so much good information in here wow I need time to process it all, but this is really going to help me in life so thank you for posting this.
I have always had many interests, did well in school, but without lot of guidance. An abusive-- family background led to floundering and cluelessness. I tried commitments but accepted what was available to me which repeatedly manifested intolerable circumstances. Perhaps sometimes we want to stick with a thing, but face diminishing returns and need to choose some alternative route in life. Sometimes the changes are foisted upon us and we must look at our options and decide who we are. The ghost ships sank one by one as I moved on. Since I refused to settle, my Rubicon became living in accordance with my own well being and who I truly am, which took decades to understand. I suppose integrity is my commitment. I'm finally seeing compounded returns and finding the sort of happiness this theory proposes in my 50s. Better late than never! I love everything you write btw.
So many great lines, sis. Love that it all rhymes with "Sunk Cost Fallacy Fallacy."
Because I work with novelists all day (many of whom don't want to make the irreversible, irrevocable choices that story requires), this one is my fave: "It’s a single unfolding narrative, and a narrative with no irreversible choices isn’t a story at all; it’s a pile of character concepts and world-building notes that never add up to a plot." Ooof. 💝
I am reminded of a line from a Joni Mitchell song: "None of the crazy you get from too much choice"
I can remember only a few times I have deliberately closed a door. Most of the time I just can't come up with a reason to consider them a door anymore.
I can’t set aside the cruelty! After Hernán Cortés scuttled his ships, he went on to success and wealth by committing atrocities and massacres that contributed to the destruction of one of the great civilizations of the Americas.
Your core ideas were interesting, well-developed, and intriguing until you went to Cortés.
For me, The real path to happiness and success is to never sacrifice principles for expediency.
“Burning the boats” is a well known phrase. Explaining the history of it doesn’t mean I endorse Cortés. It means I know the history. And I’m not going to caveat everything I write with a series of condemnations. Sometimes I’m just going to write.
Some are moved to write, others are moved to observe. English has a lot of well known words in the dust bin of history, and some that deserve to be there. My sensitivity to these has increased. Lately in the U.S. some people are cruel and threatening with their words, and when they are called out on it they say “only joking” or “that’s how we express ourselves in our social class so get over your privileged elitism”. Sorry, no sale! Why can’t they be like I am, perfect in every way
One of the great lessons I learned from my dad. Is that to be a generalist, and know a great deal about many subjects, requires one to do a very deep dive into one subject. First.
There is so much good information in here wow I need time to process it all, but this is really going to help me in life so thank you for posting this.
I have always had many interests, did well in school, but without lot of guidance. An abusive-- family background led to floundering and cluelessness. I tried commitments but accepted what was available to me which repeatedly manifested intolerable circumstances. Perhaps sometimes we want to stick with a thing, but face diminishing returns and need to choose some alternative route in life. Sometimes the changes are foisted upon us and we must look at our options and decide who we are. The ghost ships sank one by one as I moved on. Since I refused to settle, my Rubicon became living in accordance with my own well being and who I truly am, which took decades to understand. I suppose integrity is my commitment. I'm finally seeing compounded returns and finding the sort of happiness this theory proposes in my 50s. Better late than never! I love everything you write btw.
I’ll talk about this w/ my therapist on Monday
So many great lines, sis. Love that it all rhymes with "Sunk Cost Fallacy Fallacy."
Because I work with novelists all day (many of whom don't want to make the irreversible, irrevocable choices that story requires), this one is my fave: "It’s a single unfolding narrative, and a narrative with no irreversible choices isn’t a story at all; it’s a pile of character concepts and world-building notes that never add up to a plot." Ooof. 💝
I can't believe I know the Black Schoeles model here. I am cryinnn😭
This is one I’m gonna read multiple times. Thank you.
This article really opened my eyes to something major about myself. Couldn't have arrived at a better time either as I enter my 30s! Thank you
I am reminded of a line from a Joni Mitchell song: "None of the crazy you get from too much choice"
I can remember only a few times I have deliberately closed a door. Most of the time I just can't come up with a reason to consider them a door anymore.
I can’t set aside the cruelty! After Hernán Cortés scuttled his ships, he went on to success and wealth by committing atrocities and massacres that contributed to the destruction of one of the great civilizations of the Americas.
Your core ideas were interesting, well-developed, and intriguing until you went to Cortés.
For me, The real path to happiness and success is to never sacrifice principles for expediency.
“Burning the boats” is a well known phrase. Explaining the history of it doesn’t mean I endorse Cortés. It means I know the history. And I’m not going to caveat everything I write with a series of condemnations. Sometimes I’m just going to write.
Some are moved to write, others are moved to observe. English has a lot of well known words in the dust bin of history, and some that deserve to be there. My sensitivity to these has increased. Lately in the U.S. some people are cruel and threatening with their words, and when they are called out on it they say “only joking” or “that’s how we express ourselves in our social class so get over your privileged elitism”. Sorry, no sale! Why can’t they be like I am, perfect in every way
One of the great lessons I learned from my dad. Is that to be a generalist, and know a great deal about many subjects, requires one to do a very deep dive into one subject. First.
Very thought-provoking, thank you.
Burn your boats behind you: victory or death!